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Guided check

What Should We Work On First?

Answer a few prompts to notice whether a couple issue may need more attention to connection, conflict process, or shared meaning and values.

Instructions

  • Answer privately first if that feels safer.
  • Use the result as a conversation starter, not a diagnosis.
  • Choose one area to explore first rather than trying to fix everything at once.

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1. We do not really know what has been on each other's mind lately.
2. Small bids for attention, affection, or help are often missed.
3. Appreciation, warmth, humor, or ordinary kindness feel less visible than they used to.
4. It is hard to name one low-pressure way to feel close again.
5. The same issue escalates quickly, even when the topic is practical.
6. One or both of us gets defensive, critical, contemptuous, flooded, or withdrawn.
7. Repairs are missed, rejected, or attempted too late.
8. The way we talk about the issue may be causing as much pain as the issue itself.
9. The issue touches dreams, identity, roles, rituals, faith, family culture, money meanings, or life direction.
10. We may be arguing about a practical choice while a deeper value feels unseen.
11. Compromise feels hard because the topic represents something important.
12. Understanding the meaning underneath each position may matter before choosing a solution.